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KaiLai

43 – Coventry (West Midlands), West Midlands, England

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Online: 31 July 2017

Modified: More than 6 months ago

About him

Country of origin:
United Kingdom
Location:
Coventry (West Midlands), West Midlands, England
Gender:
Male
Age:
43
Star sign:
Libra
Height:
6' 0" (183cm)
Body type:
A few extra pounds
Looks:
Above Average
Hair colour:
Dark Brown
Eye colour:
Blue-Green
Marital status:
Never Married
Looking for:
Friends; Let's see what happens; A long-term relationship
Have children:
No
Want children:
Ask me later
Daily diet:
Eat most things
Smoking:
Never
Drinking:
Occasionally
Education:
Postgraduate
Occupation:
Self-employed
Income:
Comfortable
Ethnicity:
White/Caucasian
Home language:
English
Other languages:
Chinese
Religion:
Atheist

About his ideal match

Country of origin:
Anywhere in the World
Location:
Within 100 miles of postcode district CV4 (Coventry)
Gender:
Female
Age range:
25 - 45
Star sign:
Any
Height:
5' 0" (152cm) - 6' 0" (184cm)
Body type:
Slim; Average; Athletic; Curvaceous
Looks:
Above Average; Average; Attractive
Hair colour:
Any
Eye colour:
Black; Blue; Blue-Green; Green
Has a photo:
Slightly important
Marital status:
Any
Have children:
No
Want children:
Maybe
Daily diet:
Eat most things
Smoking:
Never
Drinking:
Occasionally
Education:
University / College student; Further education; University; Postgraduate
Occupation:
Any
Income:
Comfortable
Ethnicity:
Asian; Indian; White/Caucasian; Mixed
Home language:
English; Chinese; Filipino / Tagalog; Japanese; Korean; Vietnamese
Other languages:
Chinese; Filipino / Tagalog; Japanese; Korean
Religion:
Any
  • Not important at all
  • Slightly important
  • Moderately important
  • Decidedly important
  • Non-negotiable

In His Own Words

About him

I've recently moved to the West Midlands, and I'm looking to 1) build my social circle & see where things go, and 2) try to find someone to share my life with after being single for a while. Meeting people is hard, so I thought I'd give this a go, but I have my reservations, and don't really know what to expect from this online dating scene...

Anyway, about me; by and large, I am a fairly relaxed person. I don't see the need to worry about things until I need to worry about them. I'd prefer to spend my time doing things I enjoy rather than being concerned about other, less important things that aren't important right now.

I am fairly well travelled, having lived in China, New Zealand & Quebec, and visited Turkey, the US, Switzerland, and France. I enjoy meeting people from different cultures, particularly Asian/oriental cultures. On something of a whim I decided to move to China for work, initially for 1 year, but I loved it so much I lived there for the next 7 years, 6 in Shanghai. I can speak Mandarin, albeit limited now due to a lack of practice! The best part about different countries; the food :-)

Personality wise I'm somewhat quiet, and a little shy, particularly in large unfamiliar social gatherings, but being with the right person helps to temper this side of my personality. I don't mean that I'm a hermit, rather, I just prefer a small number of good people around me than a crowd of so-so people.

Hobby wise, I love reading. My favourite author is Haruki Murakami, and I'm about 3/4 through "Norwegian Wood". I also enjoy console gaming, particularly from the Final Fantasy (FF) series, and Destiny. I love my music; the music from FF is outstanding, and I've been lucky enough to listen to the live orchestral score several times, and am due to see this in London again this year.

My music taste is probably best described as eclectic! My tastes range from operatic masterpieces and classical, to funk, Jazz, and blues. I can happily sit for hours listening to music and simply get lost...an amazing feeling.

About his ideal match

What do I want from a match? To be honest, I don't think we can really know what we want in a match. It's not as simple as saying I want X, Y & Z, because we may find we don't like X in someone, but Y & Z make up for what we dislike. However, I'd say that the following are important points for me;

I do enjoy gaming on my console, and I will continue to do so. So, its important to me that my match enjoys gaming, or is at least willing to join in as it is something that we can share. I expect to do the same in return. A relationship is about compromise and willingness to join in with activities that your partner enjoys rather than trying to stop them from doing that which they enjoy.

I'm looking for someone who isn't always serious, someone who enjoys, and takes pleasure from, life. I try to do at least 1 thing each day that I enjoy, be it sitting listening to a particular piece of music (try listening to Spiegel im Spiegel, you'll see what I mean!), or sitting outside a coffee-shop enjoying the sun, a coffee and a great piece of cake. I want to be out, sitting drinking coffee or a nice glass of wine in pleasant surroundings rather than sitting at home watching TV, especially in the summer

I also like a little spontaneity. I lived in Shanghai for many years prior to returning to the UK for my PhD, and I would often decide to book a flight to Hong Kong on Thursday to fly on Friday afternoon. I don't want to book these things weeks in advance. When on vacation, I don't want to rush around seeing everything, I want to take my time and appreciate the vacation. There's something to be said for sitting, relaxing, and watching the world go by while enjoying a coffee or tea.

I hope that this helps to give an idea of what I'm looking for in my 'ideal' match :-)

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More about him

Personality traits
Sense of humour:
Dry
Intelligence:
Rocket Scientist
Ruled by:
Pleasure
Party behaviour:
An impartial observer
Personality traits:
Ambitious; Cautious; Confident; Easygoing; Faithful; Funny; Generous; Happy; Independent; Intelligent; Loyal; Optimistic; Outspoken; Philosophical; Quiet; Realistic; Sarcastic; Shy; Thoughtful
Valued qualities:
Chemistry; Compassion; Friendliness; Humility; Humour; Patience; Sexiness; Tolerance
More physical characteristics
Facial hair:
None / not applicable
Body hair:
Average
Eyesight:
I wear glasses and contacts
Fashion sense:
Casual (I'm usually in my favourite jeans)
Disabilities:
I have none
Hair style:
Long; It has its moods
Body art:
I don't have any
Leisure & entertainment
Favourite colour:
Blue
Date activities:
A music concert; A picnic in a park; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk
Cuisine:
Asian Fusion; Chinese; French; German; Greek; Indian; Italian; Japanese; Sushi; Thai; Vietnamese
Music preferences:
Blues; Classical; Gospel / Religious; Instrumental; Jazz; Opera; R&B / Soul; World
Books:
(Auto)biographies; Fantasy; Fiction; Sci-Fi; Science / Technology; Self-help
TV programmes:
Action/Adventure; Cartoons; Documentaries; Educational; Sci-Fi
Movie preferences:
Black & White / Silent; Comedy; Documentary; Independent; Sci-Fi
Interests:
Computer & video games; Music; Reading
More lifestyle
Pace of Life:
Go with the flow
Time at work:
I work a standard 40 hour week
Pastimes of choice:
Reading a book
Time online:
I'm on for an hour or two a day
Cooking:
I cook rather than starve
Dining out:
I eat out a few times a month
TV habits:
I rarely watch television
Movie frequency:
Never
Take drugs:
Never
Family size:
I've got a brother and a sister
Family contact:
I see them as often as possible
Current relationship:
I'm single
Willing to Relocate:
For the right person, to the moon!
Reading:
I read books regularly
Dietary Restrictions:
I have none
Likes & dislikes
Pets (Like):
Dog(s)
Pets (Dislike):
Bird(s); Cat(s); Exotic pet(s); Fish; Reptile(s); Rodent(s); Other; Horse(s)
Turn-ons:
Assertiveness; Erotica; Flirting; Intelligence; Long hair; Showing affection in public; Sarcasm
Turn-offs:
Tattoo(s); Thrill seeking
The deep stuff
Work aspirations:
I already have my ideal job
Religious attendance:
Never
Dream home:
In the city
Politics:
Green
Retirement plans:
Seeing the world in style
Honesty:
Extremely
Feelings about using Classic FM Romance:
Nervous; Hopeful; Curious; Embarrassed; Optimistic