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Richard121

60 – Cambridge, Cambridgeshire, England

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About him

Country of origin:
United Kingdom
Location:
Cambridge, Cambridgeshire, England
Gender:
Male
Age:
60
Star sign:
Aquarius
Height:
6' 2" (188cm)
Body type:
Slim
Looks:
Attractive
Hair colour:
Greying
Eye colour:
Green
Relationship Status:
Divorced
Looking for:
Let's see what happens; A long-term relationship; Marriage
Have children:
Yes, not living with me
Want children:
Maybe
Daily diet:
Eat healthily
Smoking:
Never
Drinking:
Occasionally
Education:
Postgraduate
Occupation:
Teaching / Education / Training
Income:
Enough
Ethnicity:
White/Caucasian
Home language:
English
Other languages:
Dutch
Religion:
Atheist

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Anywhere in Europe
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Female
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Has a photo:
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Relationship Status:
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Have children:
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Want children:
Any
Daily diet:
Any
Smoking:
Never
Drinking:
Any
Education:
Any
Occupation:
Any
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Any
Home language:
Any
Other languages:
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Religion:
Any
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In His Own Words

About him

This is no time to be backward in coming forward...

First impressions of me might be that I’m tall, smiley, polite, and what used to be called ‘well-spoken’(!)

Second impressions might be that I’m warm, friendly, gentle-mannered, calm, and self-confident.

If you came round for coffee and asked an impossible number of questions you might come to know some obvious facts about me: that I’m musical (I’ve had a half-life-long passion for classical music, first as a pianist, then as a musicologist, and now as a teacher – music is an irreplaceable part of my life), that I’m educated (in life as well, I hope, but I spent a long time at university), that I’ve been a very hands-on parent to my two daughters (now 23 and 25), that I’ve always been interested in all the arts (especially in Beethoven, George Eliot, and Vermeer), that I've always enjoyed the natural world (long country walks, birds, picking wild fruit, walking a dog - if I had one!), that I’ve never had any ambition to travel (but enjoyed many family holidays), and that I look after my health (mostly running and cycling).

Get to know me a little better and you might get the impression I’m intellectually capable (but far from an intellectual), needing some sort of intellectual life (I don’t think I’ve ever found a replacement for the end of my academic work; at the moment I 'study' George Eliot), fond of children (a very fulfilled parent and happy to be a teacher), not big on male bonding (I have two brothers, so that’s probably enough for me), not as charitably active as I would like, not as Green as I would like (I’m far more likely to save the smallest of spiders from the Hoover than 'save the planet', though, of course, I'm sensibly Green), a pragmatic socialist (so hoping the Labour party moves to the centre and has a chance of power again), very Europhilic (very sad at the moment, just when cooperation is most needed), quite feminist (but never denying the differences ...

About his ideal match

... between men and women), and I far prefer depth to breadth.

Knowing me better still you might think I’m ‘romantic’ (I can be sentimental over even shallow representations of boy plus girl; but what is it to be 'romantic'? Isn't it, more fundamentally, *relationship idealism*? - which can apply to more than just one's 'romantic' relationships), optimistic (maybe nice to live with but it’s better to be realistic), candid and expressive (very willing to let my feelings show), quietly opinionated (but always liking to be contradicted and challenged), caring and kind, emotionally intelligent (at least I've always been interested in how people and relationships work), quite an extreme Myers Briggs INFJ, and fundamentally serious (though always keen to see all the humour in everyday life).

And in a relationship I would describe myself as loving, emotionally robust, sensitive, honest, loyal, reliable, responsible, attentive, thoughtful, confessional and easily intimate, maybe quite intense, very sympathetic and supportive, a bit stubborn, organised, maybe a bit lacking in spontaneity, naturally a bit indoorsy (because my interests are there, but I would go anywhere to please!), physically demonstrative, very cuddly (it’s state of mind!), physical, sensual, playful: more husband material than boyfriend (though I do my best as a boyfriend!)

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Who or what am I looking for? In a word – intimacy; feeling together in every way. Physical intimacy. Mental intimacy - really knowing and really being known; sharing not only life but oneself. And emotional intimacy, which might be another way of saying love, which only develops over time. Someone to build a ship with, one that would not only give us a wonderful view of the sun on the sea but carry us through life's rough waters.

* * *

I spend a great deal of my spare time playing the piano and reading, but these are such good friends that they don’t mind at all when I neglect them!

My marriage ended in 2010; divorced in 2013

My beard comes and goes. You choose!

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Personality
Sense of humour:
Dry
Intelligence:
Intelligent
Party behaviour:
An average mingler
Personality traits:
Confident; Easygoing; Faithful; Generous; Happy; Independent; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Optimistic; Outspoken; Realistic; Sensible; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy
Valued qualities:
Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Faithfulness; Friendliness; Honesty; Humour; Kindness; Patience; Sexiness
Fashion sense:
Casual (I'm usually in my favourite jeans)
Favourite colour:
Green
More physical characteristics
Hair style:
Short; Straight
Eyesight:
I wear glasses
Facial hair:
I have a full beard
Body hair:
Light
Body art:
I don't have any
Leisure & entertainment
Date activities:
A picnic in a park; Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum
Music preferences:
Blues; Classical; Instrumental; Jazz; Opera
Reading:
I read books regularly
Books:
(Auto)biographies; Fiction; History; Non-fiction
TV habits:
I tend to watch news
TV programmes:
News; Sport
Movie frequency:
Occasionally or irregularly
Movie preferences:
Art Films; Comedy; Drama; Independent
Interests:
Music; Painting; Politics; Reading; The arts
Sport involvement:
Watching from the couch
Sports:
Athletics; Cycling; Rugby; Running; Tennis
Food
Cooking:
I have to cook
Food:
Doesn't matter; French; German; Greek; Indian; Italian
Go Out to Eat:
I only eat out on special occasions
Dietary Restrictions:
I have none
More lifestyle
Pace of Life:
Organised
Time at work:
I work part-time
Pastimes of choice:
Reading a book
Time online:
I check in once a day
Family size:
I've got brothers and sisters
Family contact:
I see them when I can
Relationship Type:
I'm just plain single
Willing to Relocate:
For the right person, to the moon!
Likes & dislikes
Animals:
I like animals
Pets (Like):
Bird(s); Cat(s); Dog(s); Fish; Horse(s)
Turn-ons:
Assertiveness; Dancing; Flirting; Intelligence; Showing affection in public
Turn-offs:
Power; Sarcasm; Thrill seeking
The deep stuff
Work aspirations:
I already have my ideal job
Religious attendance:
Never
Dream home:
In the country
Politics:
Labour
Retirement plans:
Living in the country
Feelings about using Classic FM Romance:
Hopeful; Jaded
Honesty:
Extremely