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67 – Colchester, Essex, England

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1Red_Cat

67 – Colchester, Essex, England

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In Her Own Words

About her

I love to look after people & let them know what they mean to me. This extends to the cat who came to stay & gave birth!
As literature is my life, I read (Dickens is a favourite) & enjoy theatre, music concerts & galleries - all the usual flannel!
Cooking is fun, but after my late husband entered full-time nursing care (widowed 21 months) meals for one feel odd. He suffered the cruellest form of dementia: Lewy Body Disease.
I now volunteer my experience to advocate for people faced with crippling care fees. Under the NHS, free Continuing Health Care (CHC) is available to patients with complex needs.
Many have this legal right, yet families are rarely told of it.
I sing & play guitar (& uke) & one day hope to master my beautiful 1935 piano. Last Spring, I passed the audition for my local Choral Society. Aside from classical, I have wide musical tastes including folk, Buddy Holly & Eddie Cochran.
Laughter truly is the best medicine & I’m very capable of laughing at myself (frequently). I adore vintage comedy, but Will Hay, Laurel & Hardy, George Formby & Norman Wisdom are my heroes.
I enjoy crime dramas & my favourite is that 'howdunnit': Columbo. Sewing is fun but only to fix & alter things. Face-masks are the only acceptable things I’ve ever made!
The people I admire respect others & are never afraid to call out bad behaviour. Any injustice is despicable, most especially racism, fascism & anti-semitism. I am easy-going, yet believe that politeness & consideration for others is extremely important.
Politically, I lean to the left and mourn Brexit.

As for my looks, the (unfiltered) photographs were taken between June & September 2023.
To quote my adorable Irish father (RIP) "Mary, you're an attractive enough girl, but you're no bloody oil painting!" Words to live & laugh by!
Walking long distances is a bother since shattering a femur in 2011. Slow now, but I remain positive. Dancing's out, but I can swim like a mermaid & am fine on horseback or pillion!

About her ideal match

I seek humour, affection, strength, curiosity, kindness, loyalty & devotion, a pretty tall order! Divorced or widowed, it must have been tough; you've exited a painful situation & in the second instance, death decided.
We'd work well if you were confident with power tools - but I’m pretty good with a chainsaw, have a full set of drain rods & am not afraid to use them! However, you really don’t need to be Action Man!
I love films of the 1930's & am particularly fond of film noir, adore actors from the golden age such as Bogie, Cagney, Edward G Robinson & Jimmy Stewart. Hopefully you’d share my rather ‘out-of-time’ tastes. Music from that golden era is also a love of mine, especially Al Bowlly - but The Ink Spots deserve special mention.
It goes without saying that you'll love music too. If you played an instrument that would be great - but not compulsory!
Honesty & good communication is all, but I have had some negative experiences on this site, so if you messaged me 24/7 & tracked my every waking moment it would not go down well. Equally, don't say you'll call & then 'ghost' me, for cowards aren't my scene & I'll never chase one!
Without wishing to be rude, good dental hygiene really matters to me. Even at choir, I have an uncanny knack of being seated near someone with halitosis! But hopefully you'd keep yourself in reasonable physical shape - & know how to dress for specific occasions without missing a beat.
Ultimately, if our relationship grew, intimacy would have its place, but we all need solitude.
Apologies to all those honest, normal gentlemen out there, no furtive flirts, no short arms & long pockets [Removed] no ‘vintage’ photos, no Walter Mitty types, gas-lighters, grifters or pompous prigs need apply!
If you’re ill and I love you – then I'll stand by you - but otherwise my nursing days are behind me and I'd like to live again.

What Her Friends Say

Sally said...

Mary is a shy lady she is an extremely caring person and wears her heart on her sleeve, she has always been a true and faithful friend throughout the 50 years I have known her.She has a great sense of humour and is good company. Things have been tough in the last few years and she now deserves some nice companionship.

About her

Country of origin:
United Kingdom
Location:
Colchester, Essex, England
Gender:
Female
Age:
67
Star sign:
Pisces
Height:
5' 8" (173cm)
Body type:
Slim
Looks:
Attractive
Hair colour:
Red
Eye colour:
Green
Relationship Status:
Widowed
Looking for:
A long-term relationship; Marriage
Have children:
Yes, not living with me
Want children:
No
Daily diet:
Eat most things
Smoking:
Never
Drinking:
Several times a week
Education:
Postgraduate
Occupation:
Retired
Income:
Solvent
Ethnicity:
White/Caucasian
Home language:
English
Other languages:
French
Religion:
Christian / Catholic

About her ideal match

Country of origin:
Anywhere in Europe
Location:
Within 100 miles of postcode district CO2 (Colchester)
Gender:
Male
Age range:
54 - 74
Star sign:
Any
Height:
5' 8" (172cm) - 6' 11" (210cm) or taller
Body type:
Slim; Athletic; A few extra pounds
Looks:
Very Attractive; Above Average; Average; Attractive
Hair colour:
Any
Eye colour:
Any
Has a photo:
Non-negotiable
Relationship Status:
Single; Divorced; Widowed
Have children:
No; Yes, not living with me
Want children:
No
Daily diet:
Eat most things
Smoking:
Never
Drinking:
Occasionally; Several times a week; Most days
Education:
Further education; University; Postgraduate
Occupation:
Arts / Music / Writing; Executive / Management; Financial services; Food / Catering; Labour / Construction; Legal; Medical / Dental / Veterinary; Political / Government; Retired; Self-employed; Teaching / Education / Training; Science / Engineering / Research; Transportation; Agriculture; Public sector; Advertising / PR; Media; Consultancy / Design; Home maker; HR / Recruitment; IT / Telecoms; Leisure / Tourism
Income:
Solvent; Enough; Comfortable
Ethnicity:
White/Caucasian
Home language:
English
Other languages:
Any
Religion:
Any
  • Not important at all
  • Slightly important
  • Moderately important
  • Decidedly important
  • Non-negotiable

More about her

Personality
Sense of humour:
Light-hearted
Intelligence:
Intelligent
Ruled by:
The heart
Party behaviour:
An average mingler
Personality traits:
Cautious; Easygoing; Faithful; Funny; Generous; Happy; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Mild; Optimistic; Philosophical; Quiet; Realistic; Sensible; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy
Valued qualities:
Charity; Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Devotion; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Hope; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Mercy; Moderation; Patience; Tolerance
Fashion sense:
Classic (My tastes echo long-established norms)
Favourite clothing:
A leather biker's jacket
Favourite colour:
Blue
More physical characteristics
Hair style:
Long
Eyesight:
I wear contacts
Body art:
I don't have any; Pierced ears
Leisure & entertainment
Date activities:
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Attending a sporting event; Dinner at a restaurant; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum
Music preferences:
Blues; Broadway / Theatrical; Classical; Folk; Jazz; Opera
Reading:
I read books regularly; I read newspapers regularly
Books:
(Auto)biographies; Crime; Fiction; History; Self-help; Travel
TV habits:
I tend to watch cultural programmes
TV programmes:
Action / Adventure; Comedy / Sit-coms; Cooking / Baking; Documentaries; Dramas; Educational; Nature/Wildlife; News
Movie frequency:
Occasionally or irregularly
Movie preferences:
Black & White / Silent; Comedy; Mystery
Interests:
Cooking; Gardening; Internet; Music; Politics; Reading; Sewing; Singing; The arts; Writing poetry
Sports:
Birdwatching; Horse Riding; Swimming
Food
Cooking:
I love it!
Food:
Chinese; Fine Dining; French; Gastro Pub; Indian; Italian; Pub Grub; Seafood; Thai
Dietary Restrictions:
I have none
More lifestyle
Pace of Life:
Go with the flow
Time at work:
I'm retired
Pastimes of choice:
Socialising with friends
Time online:
I'm on for an hour or two a day
Take drugs:
Never
Family size:
I've got brothers
Family contact:
I see them when I can
Relationship Type:
I'm just plain single
Likes & dislikes
Animals:
I love my pet(s)
Pets (Have):
Cat(s); Fish
Pets (Like):
Bird(s); Dog(s); Horse(s)
Pets (Dislike):
Exotic pet(s); Reptile(s)
Turn-ons:
Assertiveness; Flirting; Intelligence; Showing affection in public
Turn-offs:
Body piercing(s); Sarcasm; Skinny dipping
The deep stuff
Religious attendance:
I'm non-practising
Politics:
Left of centre
Feelings about using Classic FM Romance:
Hopeful; Curious; Optimistic; Excited
Honesty:
Extremely